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Valerie van Mulukom's avatar

*Love* this! Really starting to think that capitalism just is the economy of patriarchy, which was brought into being by white supremacy.. whelp, does that sentence qualify me for a "I'm officially woke" button 😂 not that I believe in woke. Anyway, excellent piece as always, thanks for your clear writing! I'm going to keep looking for solutions alongside you.

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Lexi Eikelboom's avatar

Thank you Valerie! Your encouragement means a lot ❤️ And it helps to remember that there are people like you out there looking for solutions! We’re not alone! I think it takes a lot of ongoing effort to see the injustices we’ve been programmed not to see, the interconnections between them, and our own relationships to them - the ways we’re used by and play out systems were unaware of - so the more of us trying, the better!

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YourBonusMom's avatar

Welp you just described both of my marriages and most of the jobs I’ve ever held. I’m so done with it all. Singlehood and self-employment are the cure for me.

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Lexi Eikelboom's avatar

I’m so sorry you’ve had so much experience of this pattern. I wish I could give you a hug! But I’m glad you’ve found your way to a life that keeps you safe.

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Camille Tischler's avatar

Wow. Excellent. Concise and accurate. Also my marriage to a mild mannered supposedly non-sexist man

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Lexi Eikelboom's avatar

Yes, I am also quite familiar with that experience!

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mary m's avatar

Wow this really hit home! Definitely a connection I hadn't thought to make. Thank you for that! It explains a lot about many of my experiences and associated feelings.

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Lexi Eikelboom's avatar

Aww I’m so glad it was helpful, mary. Thanks for letting me know ☺️

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Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD's avatar

One of those pieces that I felt viscerally more than taking in intellectually. Beautifully articulated ❤️

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Lexi Eikelboom's avatar

That means a lot, Jo-Ann. I’m trying to unlearn some of my academic training to aim at more visceral writing, so I appreciate knowing when I get closer to the mark!

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