This is so brilliant, congratulations on your exhibit! Seeing your strength in putting this together, in exposing yourself with this art, is inspirational. I wish I could come see it!
I think you can put a timeline together, talk about the facts, and stand your ground. I am not saying why you should collect this information, whether it's a complaint, or whatever reason. Maybe this process is complete for you after this installation. In my experience, though, you can make sense of what you know is real. Maybe it's just that a narrative would be my process. Having it make sense to others is a task when explaining manipulative actions, but it's not impossible because it's real. That's what I tend to focus on. I try to hone in on their words because everything they say is projection, they usually do the very things that they accuse you of. I think it's important to know that this can be quantified.
That said I have been paying attention to the Anti-HR HR Lady on YouTube. She is a lawyer and former HR professional who does consulting for people dealing with workplace discrimination. She has videos on what they are looking for when you make a complaint, HR procedure, and even a PDF log that I am going to take with me to start a documentation process at any future job. I don't know her and this isn't a plug for her, just my opinion. I am working on my own EEOC filing, possibly. I don't have dates and times for everything but I think it's important to have a narrative. It's important to me to do this even if it doesn't look like I can meet certain legal metrics because I didn't plan for this. It's an important thing me to write around and process. I plan to keep documentation from day 1 in the future, though.
Hi Ruby! Thanks for your comment. I believe each person has to decide for themselves what will work and each situation and each institution is different. I’m so glad that you’re pursuing a filing! I really hope you get justice and validation for your situation. And this ant-HR HR lady sounds great! I’ll have to check her out.
In my case, there are some details that I have left out that suggest to me that pursuing a formal complaint will be ineffective, one of which is that I already went to the institution for help with the situation and they threw me under the bus so I don’t want to entrust any more information to them because so far they have used it against me. But not all institutions are like that. You should definitely pursue filing if that feels right for your situation and gives you a space to process.
This is brilliant! I love it! I wish I could see it in person.
I believe what happened to you…every bit of it. I have experienced it so many times myself (as have most women if they admit it/are trained to see it.)
This is incredible and I SO wish I could be there! I cannot imagine anyone missing the message, but of course some will. This is so important and I wish you the biggest success! Can’t wait to hear how it goes ❤️
This is so brilliant, congratulations on your exhibit! Seeing your strength in putting this together, in exposing yourself with this art, is inspirational. I wish I could come see it!
Aww, thanks so much Bea ☺️. That means a lot!
I think you can put a timeline together, talk about the facts, and stand your ground. I am not saying why you should collect this information, whether it's a complaint, or whatever reason. Maybe this process is complete for you after this installation. In my experience, though, you can make sense of what you know is real. Maybe it's just that a narrative would be my process. Having it make sense to others is a task when explaining manipulative actions, but it's not impossible because it's real. That's what I tend to focus on. I try to hone in on their words because everything they say is projection, they usually do the very things that they accuse you of. I think it's important to know that this can be quantified.
That said I have been paying attention to the Anti-HR HR Lady on YouTube. She is a lawyer and former HR professional who does consulting for people dealing with workplace discrimination. She has videos on what they are looking for when you make a complaint, HR procedure, and even a PDF log that I am going to take with me to start a documentation process at any future job. I don't know her and this isn't a plug for her, just my opinion. I am working on my own EEOC filing, possibly. I don't have dates and times for everything but I think it's important to have a narrative. It's important to me to do this even if it doesn't look like I can meet certain legal metrics because I didn't plan for this. It's an important thing me to write around and process. I plan to keep documentation from day 1 in the future, though.
Hi Ruby! Thanks for your comment. I believe each person has to decide for themselves what will work and each situation and each institution is different. I’m so glad that you’re pursuing a filing! I really hope you get justice and validation for your situation. And this ant-HR HR lady sounds great! I’ll have to check her out.
In my case, there are some details that I have left out that suggest to me that pursuing a formal complaint will be ineffective, one of which is that I already went to the institution for help with the situation and they threw me under the bus so I don’t want to entrust any more information to them because so far they have used it against me. But not all institutions are like that. You should definitely pursue filing if that feels right for your situation and gives you a space to process.
This is brilliant! I love it! I wish I could see it in person.
I believe what happened to you…every bit of it. I have experienced it so many times myself (as have most women if they admit it/are trained to see it.)
Yes, let us know how it goes!! 🌸🌺
Thank you so much, Chera. I really appreciate that, and yes, I will certainly keep you updated! ❤️
This is incredible and I SO wish I could be there! I cannot imagine anyone missing the message, but of course some will. This is so important and I wish you the biggest success! Can’t wait to hear how it goes ❤️
That means so much, thank you! ❤️